Like many of my fellow bloggers out there, I take most of my inspiration from real-life situations. Conversations had with friends or family members, experiences in relationships, the inner workings of my own brain – you name it, and I consider it fair game. For the most part.
However, when you’re sharing things with anyone, let alone the entire internet, there are times when you need to be picky about how much you share. For example, most people don’t use the names of their loved ones in their blogs, opting instead to call them by nicknames. Many people choose not to even share photographs of family members or friends – and those that do always ask permission first. Basic things of that nature – sharing etiquette, if you will.
All of that comes pretty naturally to me, as I’m pretty protective of my own privacy and would never want to compromise someone else’s. However, I do find that I have trouble sometimes, distinguishing how much is too much when it comes to sharing thoughts and experiences. Part of how I work through things is through discussion, and through writing. Blogging is the perfect combination of that, and ever since my first post I’ve turned most of my difficult experiences into words.
At times, however, I’ve felt like I’ve had to censor myself, and not write the way I would like to, or say certain things I would like to, for fear of over-sharing and compromising the comfort and trust of the people I care about.
Writers, and especially now, bloggers, are all too familiar with standing in these gray areas, and this is a fine line we walk daily. And I’m sure that I’m not the only one who worries or holds back on occasion.
Personally, I’ve often found my balance through communication – when I have questions about a post, I tend to run it by a second set of eyes to get another opinion. Other times, I’ll write posts at the time the inspiration hits, and then hit the “save draft” button instead of “publish.” Nothing gives you a new perspective like distance. And occasionally, sitting on a piece of writing and then coming back to it later will give you an even better idea of what you really want to say, or clearer idea of how something will come across to others. But I still find myself a little unsure, often leaving those posts as drafts – never returning to them at all.
So here’s my question for you all – How do you all find the balance between sharing enough, and sharing too much? How do your friends and family respond on the occasions that they’re mentioned in your posts?