Hello lovely readers :)
I have been struggling with an issue lately…An issue of following back. So much of blogging is based around stats and readership, and because of this, I have noticed a lot of posts complaining about people who don’t follow back, or people who just follow everyone trying to get attention for their own site etc. Since I don’t automatically follow people back when they follow my blog, I just wanted to take a moment to explain why today!
First off, I want to start by saying I feel so honored to have so many people from so many different countries interested in reading my random thoughts about life! When I started this blog, I definitely didn’t expect to find such a community of readers and commenters here, and it’s been a wonderful and eye opening experience to get to know some of you.
Every one has so much to offer and so much to say! Unfortunately, I only have so much time during the day to read those thoughts, and even less to comment with a well thought out response. Because of this, you may never have noticed my presence on your site, unless I’ve stopped by with a “like” or a comment- but that doesn’t mean I’m not reading and enjoying. It does mean, however, that I have to be a bit more choosy than I would normally be when it comes to which sites I follow back.
Chances are, if you’ve left a comment, or pressed the “follow” button, I’ve at least stopped by your site in return, just to check it out. I figure those of you who have enjoyed my posts might just have a few I like as well :) However, I have to be honest, that isn’t always true. The beauty of the internet is that just about anyone can post just about anything – and there’s going to be someone out there who’s interested. It’s just not always me! I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the fact that you’ve found inspiration in something I’ve written, and as a writer yourself, I’m sure that you understand the joy you feel when your stats take a jump or when you’ve gotten some new followers. I think, however, your happiness would be diminished a few notches if you felt that these followers were merely “re-followers,” or writers attempting to boost the stats of their own site by networking – and weren’t actually interested in the posts you put so much of yourself into.
Update (10/26): After spending more time in the blogging world, I’ve found myself with a few more things to add. Although I respect everyone’s right to express themselves in whichever way they feel most comfortable – and although I have a tendency to swear more than a sailor when speaking, at times – I’ve found I struggle when reading blogs that use excessive swearing. For me, one of the beautiful things about writing is that it gives us the time to really think about what we want to say, and indeed, edit our words more carefully than during a spoken conversation. My own personal view is that this should leave swear words for moments of emphasis and absolute necessity, instead of being used as every day verbiage.
In addition, proper punctuation, spelling, and grammar are things I find essential. Obviously no one is perfect – I misuse and OVERuse the comma quite consistently, and there are words I always forget how to spell – so I’m certainly not going to be too picky on this point, except to say that an honest effort can get you quite far. Understandably, many people in the blogging world are also writing in a second language, so that’s definitely something I take into consideration as well.
To be fair to you, then, and to better manage my time, I will not be following people just to follow them. However, I may follow you for a time to get a feel for your posts. I hope this does not seem rude!
So thank you again for reading…I love you guys, you’re awesome! And whether I follow you back or not…happy writing!
How do you deal with the “follow back” policy?